Think of somebody with a fixed identity. They're going to have to deal with the pressure that comes with having their identity fixed in a certain way, whereas before, they had this enormous freedom. The other thing is if you have an undefined G, who belongs in your life starts not with a person but with a place. You're not going to meet the right people if you're in the wrong place. And it's only when you're in the right place that you're going to meet the right people and that your relationship with whomever it may be, that's a relationship that's going to work well in a certain place.